If you are a parent or a teacher or anybody who works with children - then
it is important that you understand how and why every ‘bad’ news is actually
a ‘good’ news.
Lets take some examples of bad news first: Say
Your child is being bulled in the school; or
Your child has been lying to you about studies; or
Your child is scared and refuses to go into a dark room alone; or
Your child has a habit of chewing nails; or
Your child gives all the tiffin / snacks to friends; or
Your child is watching too much TV; or
Your child has been neglecting his homework or tests;
or any other of your child’s behaviour that you may consider bad news and
hence worry about.
Why is every bad news a good news? Because
- Every bad news gives the child an opportunity to grow. Not just grow
out of issues, but learn the ability to grow out of any issue the child
faces anytime in life.
- Every bad news gives us (parents / teachers) an opportunity to guide
the child to realise the potential, the resources the child has within; To
connect with the child not as a provider but as a catalyst for his or her
growth, which is what we think is the real role of a parent.
- Every bad news is an opportunity to empower.
Yesterday, a new child in the school (5.5yrs) was crying incessantly,
missing her mother.
“Good news”, I said to myself. Here is an opportunity for her to learn how
to accept and overcome one’s emotional 'low's.
I did not pacify her nor gave her any assurances nor tried to divert her
mind into anything else.
After I had acknowledged her feelings for few minutes, I asked her what she
wanted to do.
She said she wanted to send an email to her mother and we together sent the
email (me as her verbatim stenographer). Feeling better she continued her
day in a much better state.
Today, the same child was crying again, missing mummy again.
I decided to push her a little today, so I turned down her request to send
an email (no more dependence on me) and asked her “What else can you do”.
She said, “I keep thinking about her (mummy) and this thinking makes me cry.
I will try not to think”.
After few minutes she came back, and said, “I cannot help but think about
her and I think whole day I will be thinking about her only and hence crying
whole day.” Is it okay to cry whole day?
I said, “I am perfectly okay with you crying whole day”
“But am I allowed to cry in school?” she was doubtful.
My co-facilitator pitched in, “Till your crying does not disturb others,
yes, it is alright to cry in school, as much as you want”.
Having accepted herself and her emotions, she soon settled down into the
work for the day.
So, the seemingly bad news of crying / missing / being emotionally unsettled
turned out to be the good news as she got an opportunity to engineer her own
significant victory over herself.
Above is only one example; we can rant endlessly with stories umpteen on the
magic of empowerment that we have experienced in the last 10 years that we
have worked with all ages of children - right from one year toddlers to
If only all parents could see each problem as opportunity.
If only all parents could see each difficulty as opportunity to learn.
If only parents could see each weakness as a source of strength.
If only all parents could see life itself as the best book to learn from.
If only all parents could see each bad news as a potential good news.
IN the next article we talk about specifically how we can empower a child -
We invite parents for a short but intensive parenting workshop on
- EMPOWERING children to become resourceful, successful and happy
individuals on 18th June, 11 to 12:30pm at Geniekids, Indiranagar. This
workshop will be repeated on 2nd July (same time). Click here for
*18 June 2011 Workshop on Empowering Children - Click here for more
*Program to develop Success Skills - every Saturday - starting 2nd July 2011
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