Sure I can elaborate. I ask questions to give you the opportunity to
explain what you mean. What I get back in response often is the sense
that you are trying to protect yourself from something. As if we are
in some kind of battle from your point of view. The more questions I
ask the more I am interested in what you have to say.
When you respond with things like "you are projecting", I say of
course, I do not know you, I am telling you how I feel.
What do you have to lose by clearly stating your position?