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[muslim] Friday Nasiha: Severing the Obligatory Ties of Kinship
by Umm Safoora


Bismillahir Rahmanir Raheem

Alaikum wa Rahmatullahi wa Barkatuh!

Friday Nasiha

Severing the Obligatory Ties of Kinship

Severing the ties of kinship is among the sins of the
body, and it is a major sin. This is done by breaking the hearts of the
relatives by refusing to be good-hearted financially if they need
money, or by leaving out visiting them without an excuse. If one usually
helps one’s relatives, then one lost the money, or one found a more
urgent need for it, then one would not be sinful for not offering it to
one’s relatives.


Allah, ta^ala, said in the Qur’an:


عَسَيْتُمْ إِن تَوَلَّيْتُمْ أَن تُفْسِدُوا فِي الْأَرْضِ وَتُقَطِّعُوا
أَرْحَامَكُمْ أُوْلَئِكَ الَّذِينَ لَعَنَهُمُ اللَّهُ فَأَصَمَّهُمْ
وَأَعْمَى أَبْصَارَهُمْ

Fahal ^asaytum in tawallaytum an tufsidu fil-ardi wa tuqatti^u arhamakum. Ula’ika-lladhina la^anahumu-llahu fa’asammahum wa a^ma absarahum.


Allah dispraises those who blaspheme and cut off the ties of kinship.. saying,
"Such are the men whom Allah has cursed
for He has made them deaf and blinded their sight." 

(Noble Qur'an Surah Muhammad Ayahs 22-23)

The Prophet, sallallahu ^alayhi wa sallam, said:


لاَ يَدْخُلُ الْجَنَّةَ قَاطِعٌ

La yadkhulul-Jannata qati^.

This means: “The one who severs the ties with the
relatives will not be among the first to enter Paradise. Rather, this
person will enter it after being tortured in Hellfire (i.e., if one dies
as a Muslim).” (Narrated by al-Bukhariyy.)

Maintaining the ties of kinship:
Kinship includes the relatives: aunts, uncles, and their children.

A Companion asked the Prophet sallallahu ^alayhi wa sallam:


مَا النَّجَاةُ يَا رَسُولَ اللهِ، قَالَ: تَصِلُ مَنْ قَطَعَكَ وَتُعْطِي مَنْ حَرَمَكَ وَتَعْفُو عَمَّنْ ظَلَمَكَ

“What is the way of saving oneself in the


The Prophet said:


“You maintain the tie with the one who
severed it with you, you give to the one who deprived you, and you
forgive the one who wronged you.”


(Related by at-Tirmidhiyy.)

These three (3) traits were among the traits

and manners of the Prophet, sallallahu ^alayhi wa sallam,

one of which is maintaining relations with the kin who severed ties
with one.

This means one has to observe the right that the kin has on

by maintaining the ties with them.

So it is not permissible for one
to treat a relative in a way

in which the relative feels cut off and

even if the latter himself does not observe one’s right of
kinship ties.



One must not say so-and-so of my relatives does not
visit me,
so I will not visit him.


It is prohibited for him to treat the
one who severed ties with him likewise;
rather it is an obligation on
him to maintain a tie,

even with the one who severed the tie with him.

The Prophet, sallallahu ^alayhi wa sallam, said:


لَيْسَ الْوَاصِلُ بِالْمُكَافِىءِ وَلكِنَّ الْوَاصِلَ مَنْ وَصَلَ رَحِمَهُ إِذََا قَطَعَتْ

Laysal-wasilu bil-mukafi’, walakinnal-wasila maw wasala rahimahu idha qata^at. (Narrated by Muslim.)

This hadith explicitly states
that there is merit in maintaining a tie with the one who severed ties
with you and the one who did not, rather than maintaining it only with
the one who did not sever the tie with you.

This is among the good
manners that the Religion has strongly urged us to practice.

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Jazak Allahu khairan !


With kind & humble regards,

Umm Safoora



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